{"id":1109,"date":"2026-06-26T05:44:10","date_gmt":"2026-06-26T05:44:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/?p=1109"},"modified":"2026-06-26T05:45:20","modified_gmt":"2026-06-26T05:45:20","slug":"counter-programming-against-your-inner-critic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/counter-programming-against-your-inner-critic\/","title":{"rendered":"Counter-programming Against Your Inner Critic"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Many of us tend to be tough on ourselves, probably more than on others.  This approach seems to intensify in corporate environments because of constant judgment scenarios.  I noticed an interesting Ted talk, that brought out a personal experience journey, along with the related improvements in a light manner.  In today&#8217;s world, the message seems very relevant to many people, with valuable food for reflection and application.  Practicing the &#8220;loving-kindness&#8221; meditation statement seems valuable to experiment with and apply practically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-ted wp-block-embed-ted wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Dan Harris: The benefits of not being a jerk to yourself\" src=\"https:\/\/embed.ted.com\/talks\/dan_harris_the_benefits_of_not_being_a_jerk_to_yourself\" width=\"676\" height=\"381\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"autoplay; fullscreen; encrypted-media; picture-in-picture\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" loading=\"lazy\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are some selected valuable notes from the talk.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>* &#8220;If I wanted to be less of a jerk to other people, I needed to start by being less of a jerk to myself&#8230;&#8221;<br>* &#8220;All the ways in which I was torturing myself showed up in my relationships with other people. And as those relationships suffered, so did I.&#8221;<br>* Meditation statement while focusing on others &#8211; <strong>&#8220;May you be happy, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease.&#8221;<\/strong><br>* Start consciously counterprogramming against your inner critic.<br>* Research shows that the process of replacing your sadistic inner tyrant with a supportive inner coach, who has high standards but is not a jerk about it, makes you more likely to reach your goals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Many of us tend to be tough on ourselves, probably more than on others. This approach seems to intensify in corporate environments because of constant judgment scenarios. I noticed an interesting Ted talk, that brought out a personal experience journey, along with the related improvements in a light manner. In today&#8217;s world, the message seems [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"sfsi_plus_gutenberg_text_before_share":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_show_text_before_share":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_icon_type":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_icon_alignemt":"","sfsi_plus_gutenburg_max_per_row":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1109","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-coaching","post-preview"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1109","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1109"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1109\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1110,"href":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1109\/revisions\/1110"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1109"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1109"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tojoeapen.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1109"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}